Find safety in connection
Discover new levels of closeness and ease in your relationships
Love can be a harbor in a storm
The blinders from the honeymoon phase have come off. The love is there, but, now, so is a pattern of conflict. You feel stuck in misunderstandings and tension. It’s scary to think about what might happen if this pattern continues.
You are not alone, and painful patterns can be broken.
Emotionally-Focused Relationship Therapy
Few things can make us humans feel more desperate, inadequate, and confused than when we experience repetitive conflict with our loved ones. We’re wired for connection - so why do we feel so lost when it comes to communicating with our partner? The answer is found in the science of connection: attachment science. This is the science that Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is rooted in.
EFT uses a non-pathologizing frame to help us understand why we get stuck. This APA-endorsed model offers compassion for the ways that we inadvertently contribute to our repetitive patterns - and offers simple but profound solutions for how to break free from those patterns.
You deserve to feel empowered to navigate conflict on your own, and I want to help you get there. First, we use a lens of curiosity and compassion to unpack what your specific pattern of conflict looks like. Next, we get to the root of the emotions and attachment needs that drive the conflict. Finally, we take time to consolidate the changes that you have made and find resolution to the problems that once plagued your relationship - without falling into a pattern of conflict that goes nowhere.
Who is Relationship Therapy for?
Emotionally-Focused Relationship Therapy is a great option for folks who are struggling with communication in their important relationships.
Important relationships can come in many forms. I specialize in working with the full spectrum of adult relationships. Everyone from married couples to close friends are welcome at Otter Cove Counseling.
EFT has been shown to be effective for both heterosexual and queer relationships. EFT is also helpful for non-monogamous and alternative relationships. Attachment theory does not discriminate - we all long for secure attachment. I welcome the chance to work together, regardless of the shape of your relationship.
“We live in the shelter of each other.”
— Irish Proverb
Contact Otter Cove
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