Therapy for Relationship Anarchists

Relationship anarchy (RA) is the practicing of designing each relationship in an intentional way - without letting societal expectations dictate what our relationships “should” look like.

Relationship anarchists can run into the same communication problems that any relationship does. Add societal pushback on top of that, and at times relationship anarchy can feel like an uphill battle. But those who are aligned with the practice understand that there’s no other way they’d rather live life. It may be challenging, but it’s also a path to greater security, freedom, and self-actualization.

When practicing RA does become difficult, it’s important to have somewhere to turn for support. There are plenty of resources and supports (some of them are linked on my resource page) and relationship therapy is one of them. But you don’t want to end up with a well-meaning therapist who doesn’t understand that you have casual sex with your lover, you co-habitate with your sibling, you’re in a long term romantic partnership, but you really want to focus on the communication breakdown between you and your best friend.

I understand what it’s like to feel like you’re swimming upstream while simply trying to be intentional about crafting your relationships. At Otter Cove Counseling, I make space for curiosity about what’s actually bringing you into my office, without judgment and without assumptions. Relationships are hard enough on their own without needing to over-explain or defend your lifestyle. Everything from forging a secure attachment, improving communication skills, and pulling out the Relationship Smorgasbord is on the table in my office.